This website is devoted to Identity, who we think we are, who we want to be, the identity attached to our jobs or business, our spiritual identity, the roles we play and how we believe others perceive us …
How it all began … Not so long ago, in a moment of low self-esteem, I was feeling fat and short and I complained about it all weekend to a friend. I then went on to tell her that I considered myself vicious at times. My friend laughed, looked at me and said in a humorous manner “Yes you are … Vicious, Fat and Short!” I had to laugh as I realised that I had actually put that absurd label on myself and I understood in that moment how distorted a picture I had of myself. That is where this idea arose. .
I began to think back on all the times when I had labelled myself as a certain identity only to have my perception crushed and to then start all over again. As the years have gone by the labels have begun to wear thin with my realisations that I was giving myself a lot to live up or down to.
As a child I lived a small portion of my life in hospital and I found it difficult to fit in with others on my return to school. I spent my teenage years as a Third Culture Kid and I found it difficult to find a place to call home in my later years. I spent my married life in a country with a different culture to my own. I tried desperately in all these places to fit in and adapt. I tried to be the relaxed teenager who didn’t care what anyone thought. I tried to be the wife and mother I thought I should be and I tried to adapt myself to all my various situations while keeping a smile on my face.
During my divorce a few years ago, while living overseas, I felt I no longer had a sense of who I was or where I belonged and as a result I was completely lost. I tried moving around to find a place that I could adapt too and feel comfortable in but it didn’t really work.
I started eventually to understand that in order for me to feel comfortable living anywhere I would first have to be comfortable within myself. Hence the question arose “Who am I?”
So began my search for who I really am rather than the identity labels I had placed upon myself. In the moment that my friend pointed out the Vicious fat and Short label I had placed upon myself I realised that I had once again fallen in to the identity trap and it was only with that humorous insight I was able to release myself from that label. The name of this website is therefore “A Story of Identity” as a reminder of our labels and the Vicious Fat and Short is an eye opener to some of the crazy labels we place upon ourselves.
I hope through this website and through future events to bring attention to the labels we all use and the consequences these labels can have.
“Be not another, if you can be yourself. “ — Paracelsus
Kama J Frankling – Vicious Fat and Short
So here it, is a website devoted to identity and discovering our identities in the various roles we play. here you will find articles, inspiration and more from people sharing their stories and professionals who work with people in their search for identity. Enjoy …
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